Most African marriages are just the opposite and shadow of what they are supposed to be. Many even so much wished their marriages look like the others as modelled in movies. It is always very obvious that most prospective marriages have been channelled towards the path of success and romantic one, however, some other factors creep in, and kill the romance while the couples have no option than to just sit and look. Also, some women do not exhibit the traits men like. See our article on The Kind of Wife Men want.
It is against this backdrop that I write on the observed reasons why couples, especially in Africa, are not romantic:
1 Many marriages are just for sleeping and waking up, raising kids and ageing together till death comes. Some do not see marriage as a union, they only see it as a means of only living together and bearing children. This mentality will not help romance as even couples tend to have sex instead Of making love, since child-bearing and not intimacy is the focus. Couples need to learn how to have good and healthy sex. They should know 10 Tips for good sex. See also Benefits of Early morning sex.
2. Many couples hardly kiss and they only hug each other when they receive good news. This is another reason why african couples are not romantic. They just look like aliens or strangers to each other and they tend to relate with each other like they relate to other people. Even some people who are not in a relationship hug often more than some African couples.
3. The husband only puts food in his wife's mouth only when she is terminally ill and cant feed herself. In fact, some couples only feed themselves during their wedding ceremony when they are asked or compelled to do so. They think asking them to feed themselves is a wedding routine, they never see it as a symbol meant to symbolise the beginning of such action. They take it as the first and the last. They do not know that every day of their marriage should be like their wedding day, hence they need to rekindle their romance every day.
4. The only thing that makes an african man touch his wife's neck is when she complains of fever. He wont touch it again till the next fever. The only time a Man helps his wife to open the car door is when it's faulty. The only time he can carry his wife on his arms is when she is in labour. All these to some extent signal how strong and/or weak love, romance and marriage is.
5. The only time they go for evening stroll is when they want to go and lay a complain to the parents of the person that beat their child or got their daughter pregnant. Many couples really care more for their phones or clothes more than they care for their partners, they only exhibit traits of romance occasionally when situation calls for it, they can never initiate a situation for romance. This way, the marriage can never be romantic.
6. Unfortunately, africans see any romantic man as being controlled by his wife. This mentality will only make men continue to see women as vulnerable and inferior and hence will not want to relate equally to them. Of course, where this mentality and superiority exists, the man does not see the woman as a partner but a servant. And tell me, what romance can come to place between the "boss" and the "subject"?
See related article: 5 Reasons Why Men Lie
Or 5 Reasons Why Men Cheat
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